In the past few years, the #metoo movement has grown drastically. Initially a response to sexual harassment in Hollywood, this movement has grown to several different industries. The most common battlefront of #metoo has become the university. Although the outing of serial sexual harassers in Hollywood has died down, sexual harassment/assault cases are still happening within college campuses at an alarming frequency.
The political left assigns this problem to the Patriarchy, essentially saying that society is built in a way to give numerous advantages to men. While allowing them to get away with sexual harassment, advance farther in the workplace and achieve a high social status than women ever could. This “patriarchal system” gives men a free pass to treat women as disposable objects. None of this is true, for a variety of reasons. The problems of sexual abuse and harassment were accelerated by this progressive messaging.
The sexual revolution started in the 1960s. Its main goal was to challenge restrictive cultural norms around sexual interaction. This movement took fourth resulting in the normalization of sex outside of wedlock, pornography, and polygamous relationships. Sex was no longer sacred. It became a casual recreational act with the sole purpose of providing pleasure and a “feeling” of closeness.
The sexual revolution was also a fight against the “patriarchy.” Progressive thinking believes that sex should be as free and as open as possible, while even assuming that men who treat sex as a commodity are gravely immoral.
As an example, the age-old Hollywood trend of the “casting couch” is now viewed as sexually predatory. This is true. According to progressive views on sexual relationships; however, it shouldn’t be. If a man and a woman feel like sex is a fair trade for a significant movie role, what exactly is wrong with that? Sex is simply a means of finding pleasure. Why not use sex as a commodity in exchange for a shot at fame and fortune.
This is where progressive views on sex have become contradictory. People don’t know right from wrong anymore. Normalizing casual sexual relations significantly increased the danger to women. On campuses across the States, getting drunk and hooking up on the weekends is typical. This leads to situations were the lines of consent are blurred. Sometimes self-centered men use this advantage to assault and rape vulnerable women. Other times, manipulative women have used the situation to file false claims after consensual sex with men. In both cases, the fallout could have been avoided if society still upheld traditional sexual values.
It is never a woman’s fault if she has been assaulted. No matter what actions or decisions she has made, there is no reason to put any blame on the side of the victim. The person to be held responsible is the perpetrator himself.
The current cultural narrative blames and holds men accountable, not just male perpetrators, but men in general. This also sets a dangerous standard. Male offenders make up a small percentage of men in general. This view is reflected in many of the writings of feminists such as Jody Allard. She published a series of articles about her two sons and their complicity in rape culture and how she believes they are not safe, because no man really is safe. Allard says all of these things despite the fact her sons have no history of sexual assault. It is a judgment rendered with bias and no objective proof. This is wrong.
Nearly all sexual perpetrators are indeed men, a tiny subsection of men, but still all men nonetheless. Due to various biological differences between the sexes, including higher sex drives and increased aggressiveness among males, the offenders are almost all men. The mainstream feminist theory that “rape culture” has infected the minds of all men and thus shows up in their behavior is patently absurd. These criminals are not representative of the whole population, and there are biological explanations of why the most sexual and aggressive persons tend to be male. When feminist theory suggests that the Patriarchy causes these problems through cultural programming, it is dead wrong. These problems amongst men are biological and only happen at the extreme ends of population distribution.
Allard’s views are shared amongst mainstream feminists. All men are a threat, and they will continue to be so until the shackles of our patriarchal society have been broken. They don’t stop to think that maybe they are part of the problem.
There is one solution that might solve all of these problems: traditional sexual values — treating sex as something special to be shared with one partner. Not condemning sexual feelings or desires but also learning to sequester and control such emotions, transforming sex from a recreational activity to an expression of committed love.
There is plenty of evidence that waiting until marriage (or at least until you’ve found a long term partner) is the best option. Any risk of contracting STI’s or STD’s is reduced. Even more importantly, research shows that couples who have waited until meeting each other have longer, healthier relationships.
Cases of sexual misconduct are wildly misreported given the #metoo movements disregard of due process. Even having taken that into account, there are easy steps our society can take to help prevent further mistreatment of women. Returning to traditional monogamous values is the healthiest, smartest, and safest option. Unfortunately, people with these values are unlikely to sacrifice short term pleasure for the safety of women.